If you want to be happy, give something away

I found this poem while going through a Christmas book that was given to my mother by one of her friends.  I quite liked its message and thought I would like to pass it along.

Old Gentleman Gray … Author Unknown

Said Old Gentleman Gray, “On Christmas Day, if you want to be happy give something away.”

So he sent a fat turkey to Shoemaker Price, and the Shoemaker said, “What a big bird!  How nice!  And since such a good dinner is sent to me, I’ll send poor Widow Lee the fine chicken I bought.

“This fine chicken, oh see,” said the pleased widow Lee, “And the kindness that sent it, how precious to me.  I would like to make someone as happy as I.  I’ll send Washwoman Biddy, my big pumpkin pie!”

And, “Oh sure,” Biddy said, “Tis the queen of all pies!  Just to look at its yellow face gladdens my eyes.  Now it’s my turn, I think, and a sweet sugar cake for the motherless Finnegan children I’ll bake.”

Said the Finnegan children, Rose, Denny and Hugh, “It smells sweet of spice, and we’ll carry a slice to poor lame Jake … who has nothing that’s nice.”

“Oh, I thank you and thank you!” said little lame Jake.  “I’ll save all the crumbs, and give them to each little sparrow that comes.”

And the sparrows they twittered as if they could say, like old Gentleman Gray, “On a great Christmas Day, if you want to be happy, give something away.”

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A breath of fresh air

Having recently spent time in the hospital in the Intensive Care Unit and subsequent third floor follow up, I feel a welling of gratitude for the people who took care of me in any way.   I say this in all honesty; there was not one person there who didn’t treat me kindly and generously.   I give them all a standing ovation.  Dixie Regional Medical Center in St. George, Utah, must have an outstanding Quality Assurance program and their employees are truly several giant steps above average.  Doctors, therapists, nurses, aids, kitchen staff, and cleaning crew … how can I think them enough?  If you are going to be critically ill, I suggest you do it here where the people who care for you really do seem to care about you

Not wanting to bore you with a lot of the details, let me just say this: Breathing is everything it is cracked up to be.   Not being able to take in enough air is frightening and tends to make you realize how precious life is as well as making you very desirous to live and be with your loved ones.   I am ever so grateful that our prayers were answered.

As for now, I am doing better every day.  I have been walking outside with the assistance of my fancy walker with a seat so I can rest when needed, and a little basket for my oxygen.  I manage to push a little farther each time we go for a stroll and it is good to be outside in the fresh air.  The last time we walked it was 3/8 of a mile.  

I was reading my son-in-law’s blog today about riding his bicycle to work in the cold weather and how happy he was that he didn’t go back for the car because of the weather.  I can relate, Brett.  It feels good to push yourself a little beyond what you think you can do … even if it is just a few more steps.

Life is good and there are many things to smile about.  

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What a Wonderful World ….

And I say to myself ….

This little boy is awesome! His rendition of Louis Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World” brought tears to my eyes! This song is the perfect end to my fun, fun day. Thank you Oleg!

      Today began as any other and who could have imagined the fun that was in store.   Lynn and I had to leave the house while a realtor showed it so I chose that we would go to the ocean.   Since it was really rather nippy outside, we bundled up extra warm for the drive north to Deception Pass, which is about 2 hours northeast as the crow doesn’t fly (for Lynn and I are not known for taking the most direct highway to anywhere). 

      We loaded the car with oxygen, our jackets, water, cameras, phones, snacks, and our GPS (of course you know that stands for Global Positioning System) and off we were!   First stop was the McDonald’s in Monroe where we each got a 32 ounce drink of our favorite beverage.  I know … it sounds like heavy drinking … but if I were to tell you that wasn’t the only time we made a stop like that on this particular day would it change your opinion of us forever?  Old people need a steady supply of liquid, don’t you know?  

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      We laughed ourselves along for a good hour, talking about this and that; enjoying the sights and the towns, and the trucks and the animals in the fields and finally we thought that perhaps we should listen to the Book of Mormon since we are both trying to finish it again before we leave for home in Utah.   Not long after that my heavy head pulled itself forward and my jaw relaxed sufficiently that my mouth could get comfortably open and I was fast asleep … with diet coke drool dropping slowly onto the collar of my white sweater.  I slept like that until just before we got to the pass.

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And now is when the story gets really exciting.  I suppose it could be the climax of the entire trip … it was that dramatic!  There is a pull off right before you actually get to Deception Pass, which is close to Oak Harbor, Washington.    The pass itself is a very high, majestic bridge that connects Whidbey Island to the mainland.  It looks down into the Sound and far off you can see that it opens out into the ocean … and as if all this isn’t enough … you add the beautiful trees and foliage, the tourists, and the wildlife … and the birds.

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    Just before the bridge there was a little look out area with a perfect view from my seat in the car and Lynn pulled over so I could sit comfortably and enjoy the view without having to go through all the work of changing my oxygen so I could get out.  I had just rolled down my window when I heard a screeching bird very close to the car and looked out and a bald eagle was diving straight into the tree just 10-15 feet from me. From where I sat I looked down into the little grove of trees where it was diving and I could hear birds yelling and such a clatter of screeching and suddenly here came a second bald eagle zooming down from the left … out swooped the first closely on the tail of a beautiful golden eagle and they zoomed in and out of the tree and up in the air and down … the two bald eagles intent on driving this one golden eagle away from whatever it had been doing … and they ended up doing just that as it suddenly made a hasty retreat to the west with both of the other eagles close on its tail … the three of them shrieking obscenities at the top of their lungs.   It was all over in a matter of minutes but our hearts were pounding from the excitement of it all.  The three birds were so close to the car it was like front row seats to one of natures grandest treats.   There was no time for pictures of the foray and if we’d have wasted the time trying to take them we’d have missed it entirely but Lynn was able to get a pretty good photo of one of the bald eagles afterwards as it kept a lookout above us in case the golden eagle tried to sneak in from another direction.

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      We sat there for a good long while, talking about it and listening to the comments from other tourists who’d witnessed it with us.  It was actually too spectacular for words and just left us full of emotion and gratitude that we had pulled over to see it.   The timing and choreography of seeing those kinds of unexpected gifts from nature always fascinate me.  Just a few minutes later or sooner and we’d have missed a choice, choice experience.

      Even though the rest of the trip was just as fun … nothing quite compares to those few minutes on the top with the eagles … except for one other magic moment on the way home.    You can imagine that after we’d gone over the pass and had been driving for close to three hours it would be time to find ourselves another McDonalds.   This time, however, it was not so much to purchase more liquid as it was to get rid of the 32 ounces we had consumed.    The first McDonald’s we came to was hooked onto a gas station, Mini-Mart kind of place so it wasn’t ideal but in a pinch it would have to do.  I didn’t have time to switch to the portable oxygen so I just took off the oxygen that is attached to the big tank we carry in the car and hurried into the store.  I saw the sign pointing to the restrooms and made a beeline for the hall cluttered with empty boxes and brooms and buckets.  There was a man sitting on a chair at the end of the counter near the register and just as you enter the hall so I thought I should get his permission to use his loo since I was actually in the store and not at the McDonalds.  He just nodded his head on down the hall so I hurried past him and through the door at the back on the left.   It was such a small bathroom that if I’d of taken my oxygen it would have almost been too hard to manipulate with it.   It had a sink and a place to change a baby but you kind of had to stand in front of the door to use them, and then there was a door that led to an obvious stall and that was where I was headed.  I gave the door a tug and it didn’t open and it was deathly quiet in there so I figured I was alone and gave it a hearty yank … and it still didn’t open.  

      It didn’t take me too long to realize that I was not the only one in the restroom but I figured they knew I was in there by now so I might as well stand there and maybe they would get the hint and hurry.  I was feeling the affects of not having the oxygen available so I moved over where I could lean on the area by the sink for support while I waited, and finally I heard the toilet paper roll getting spun … and spun … and spun … and I am thinking, “Oh great, she is going to clog the toilet and I won’t get to use it and it will be all over for me.”   Then it spun … and spun … and spun again … and I finally hear some shuffling around in there and the sound of pants getting zipped up and the click of metal against metal … and then the door opens and I am face to face with a guy in a McDonald’s shirt and apron.

      “Holy Cow!”  My first thought is that it’s a He/She sort of bathroom but that is proven false when I say, “I bet this isn’t the ladies room, is it?”  And he says, “No, that would be the one across the hall.”    “Wouldn’t you know it?” says I, as we begin to do the shuffle from left to right trying to pass each other.  He was trying to get to the sink, and I was trying to get to the door and there is only room there for one person.   “I am really sorry,” I say … not being able to think of anything else to talk about.   “Oh don’t worry.  It’s all good.”  I’m thinking that no it is not all good since I can’t seem to get around him to get out of the men’s bathroom!   I was almost ready to dive into the stall and just use the danged toilet when I got close enough to the door to open it.   I should have said goodbye considering how close we’d gotten in such a short time … but I just left … retreated into the hall and disappeared behind door number two where I stayed as long as I dared, and then I briskly (with my eyes on the front door) made my retreat.     

      In looking back over the day I am supposing that in our lives we are gifted with these quick little three minute interludes every once in a while for a reason.   The gift of the eagles was a gift of the highest order… and we have thoroughly enjoyed reliving it over and over.  It is something we will always remember and will probably tell it to strangers we find in our travels.     The bathroom incident … well it had to have had a purpose, too.   I know when I told it later to my sister, Ann, she had such a good hearty laugh I was grateful it had happened.   I have imagined her telling it again and again and supposing that the audience gets bigger and better each time … as does the tale.   I know it made the day of the two men in the store … and probably a good many of their customers have heard it as well.   Lynn seemed to have been uplifted by it and how here I am … doing what I love to do most  … retelling it to the world.  I know it will make the day of at least one of my nieces.  Nothing would make her happier than me telling how I got caught in the men’s room.    So, there you go … that’s the way it was …

      “And I say to myself … What a wonderful world!

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Today … A Trip in the Time Machine

      Okay … admittedly I have been a slacker.  I’ve spent hours trying to explain about dealing with Pulmonary Hypertension but it sounds like whining so I erase and  begin again. This time we will just move on to today.   Today we went for a ride in the Time Machine.  It’s one of the things we both enjoy and it always leaves me feeling relaxed and happy.

      The Time Machine looks surprisingly like a 2011 tan Prius.  How it all works is for the scientists to manage … all we do is fill it up with the most inexpensive gasoline we can find and get its oil changed every so often.  So far it has been relatively easy.

      The old country roads that weave through small out of the way towns are some of our most promising locations to set things in motion and there are many such locations in King County, Washington.  Today it began as we drove past what looked to be the crippled skeleton of a Size XXL old barn. It was built much after the fashion of the barn on Little House on the Prairie but its walls were far from the color of freshly cut lumber and many of it’s reinforcing timbers were no longer there to keep it tall and stately so it leaned decidedly to the left (which may have been what drew me to it in the first place.) 

      I don’t know when the Time Machine did it’s magic but suddenly there I was, riding the plains with my friend Donna as we sat proudly atop our faithful steeds.  Mine was a beautiful large white horse with reddish/brown patches …. and don’t tell me there isn’t such a horse because I rode him through many a battle in my days as a Sheriff in the old West.  His name was Star because of the white star that sat in the middle of a brown spot on his forehead.   The actuality of it all was that we never really left the barn because our horses were dusty old saddles that straddled lumber in the old gray, fragile barn on the Dibb farm in Draper, Utah, in the year 1954.  We often lived the lives of Hop-a-long Cassidy, Roy Rodgers, Sunset Carson, or the Lone Ranger as we scoured hills and dales looking for bank robbers and fought the painted Indians who attacked at dawn.  We knew the words to many of the cowboy songs sung by Gene Autry and we would warble them  at the top of our lungs as we rambled through the valleys looking for our lost cattle.   We were seven years old. 

     I loved to play at my best friend, Donna’s, house.  Her back yard, which was typical of that of old farm houses then, farm buildings, farm equipment, fields of soft soil and the common areas of packed down dirt and a few scattered shade trees.  They probably had one of the the biggest climbing trees in Draper that was so wide that 2 or 3 children could hide behind it during a rousting game of Kick the Can, and its branches were thick and strong and placed perfectly for climbing … there were several spots big enough for human nests where we could get comfortable with our books or dolls and spend the summer afternoons high enough that we were cooled by the gentle wind.  

     There was a very standard little wooden, out house next to it that was  was where we went when we needed to do our Number Ones and Number Twos.  Even when they got their indoor plumbing the outhouse stood steadfastly in the sun and got plenty of use from us kids who would run to it when we were too busy to take the time to go inside the house.  There was a latch on the outside of the door to keep it closed when it wasn’t in use and occasionally it was your misfortune to be the reciprocate of one of the brother’s pranks and you would get locked inside and would have to call and bang on the door for someone to come and let you out. 

      Behind the tree and the outhouse there was a humongous stack of bailed hay that we climbed on when no one was around to see.  One summer the haystack caught on fire and its flames were so high and hot that it damaged some of the branches of the good ole tree and was probably the demise of the outhouse as well.  It was a scary fire and the fire department worked feverishly to keep it from catching onto the big empty barn or the house.  

     The back yard was big enough to play a game of soft ball and on a good day when we had enough neighborhood kids we would kick up a lot of dust as we swung the bats, connected solidly, and ran the bases for our team.  Sweat would run down our faces and backs as we played our best not to let the “brothers” down  who would hit the home runs that would bring all the little kids running into home plate.  

     If it wasn’t baseball then it was Basketball, although the bigger the boys were on the teams the less tolerance there was for us younger kids to play and thus we ran a higher risk of getting trampled.  The rule seemed to be “play if you dare” and more often than not, I didn’t dare.   Playing ball was a hot, dusty way to spend an afternoon and the icy cold water from the garden hose was more refreshing than you can even imagine; especially if you compare it to what comes out of the hose in the middle of the summer in Ivins, Utah.

      And suddenly, the time machine comes in for a landing as Lynn pulls quietly into the driveway that leads to our little cabin in the woods in Duvall, Washington, where we have lived for the last five months.   How nice it was to visit Draper, Utah, in the summer of 1954.

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The Joy of Christmas Programs Past

I was feeling kind of bad that I hadn’t finished my Christmas Pasts … I mean there are so many good memories:

School Christmas programs the kids were in all through the years:  I don’t want to get too particular (because they were all unique and special no matter how many we went to) but one program really stands out in my mind when I could smell something like electrical wires melting just prior to the kids walking in to the auditorium.    I wondered why my daughter hadn’t combed her hair one final time  before the program started because although one side of it seemed styled pretty, the other seemed sort of all over the place.    It wasn’t until after the show that she told me her hair had caught on fire from the candles they were holding and it was all melted together on one side because of the hair spray. (That was what I smelled … my daughter on fire!)  I think that was the last time they used real candles in any of the programs.

When my children were young we used to love to visit the nursing homes where we would deliver treats and sing Christmas carols.    In Blanding we used to go with other families and do a live performance of the nativity.   In St. George we used to take our children’s singing group, The Music Makers, who would perform.   The residents loved the singing and especially to see the children.       

I sang in a sextet for years that would be very involved in programs through the holidays.    It was the only group I ever got to sing with because the rest of the time I was the accompanist.    We always came away from each performance, whether as a child or as an adult, with joyful hearts for having taken the time to practice and share our talents.    When my mother got older and was at a facility for a short time I was able to see it all from the other side as I saw the joy it brought to my mother to benefit from programs that were taken there.   

Playing or directing or singing in the ward choir was a huge part of my life until about ten years ago when my lungs and arthritis interfered.    Now I am one of the “listeners”.

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Memories six, seven, & eight …

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Due to the fact that I am sick with bronchitis we will be combining memories 6, 7, and 8.    This picture is taken in either 1980 or 1981.

Memory 6: See that little elf sitting just under the bells that are hanging on the wall?   His name is Ichabod and he has been in the family for years … watching for who is naughty and nice.    I think he liked the kids and only took in the “nice” list because Santa always brought them a bag full of toys and no lumps of coal.

Memory 7: The kids got to open one present on Christmas Eve – which was always new pajamas or sweats.    The picture shows the boys in their favorite pajamas of all time:   Warren loved the Rams, Ryan the Steelers, and Brett the Cowboys.    My children from left to right, Warren, Ryan, Brett, Kimberly, Angella.  

angispinwheel Memory #8: The Spinning Wheel:   This is the inside of the box that the children are standing in front of above.   It was made by my grandfather, John B. Matheson around 1956 (my siblings may remember better than I do on this).   Grandpa used to stock it with full sized candy bars and prizes and would share with his neighbors and friends as they went to his house during the holiday season.    When we had our big family party he would stock it with special candy and prizes.   When we would spin that bicycle wheel it would go around and around until it stopped with the “clicker” pointing at a number.    Whatever number it stopped at would represent a kind of candy bar and that is what we would win.   If it stopped on one of the red numbers we got a candy plus we got to pick one of the prizes from the shelves or those hanging on the door. 

When Grandpa passed away his children took care of his estate and when all was said and done, the spinning wheel hadn’t been taken by someone … and I was delighted when I asked for it and it became mine.    I didn’t realize what a responsibility it would be once the tradition was started!  

I would shop for great deals all year long that would work for prizes, and right after Halloween I would stock up on miniature candy bars (quite a step down from the large candy bars Grandpa used to supply).

We would put the spinning wheel up on the 1st of December but we kept it locked except for one night a week when we would let the children have a spin … or unless they talked us into more than that.    I use the word “locked” rather lightly because my children soon learned how to sneak candy out of it in in spite of our efforts to keep them out.

We were all excited to make invitations for the families in our small town to come to our annual open house and we would drive around and the children would run the invitations to each door.    We would bake Christmas cookies and clean our house and the Saturday before Christmas we would have company all afternoon as families came to spin Grandpa’s Spinning Wheel.     It was always a huge success and such a fun way to spread the Christmas cheer.

The last year I worked, 2006, I loaned it to TURN Community Services to be used as an incentive program in their employment day program for adults with disabilities.    You can imagine how sad I was when I went to pick it up for Christmas in 2007, and it was gone.    No one knew where it had been taken or where it was.    And it has never showed up again.   I miss it.

If wishing would bring it back … the spinning wheel would be in my front room, set up and ready for the Christmas Eve Open House once again.    But since it’s not, we can all be grateful for the many, fun memories it created for over fifty years.   Thank you, Grandpa Matheson.

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The Fifth Memory of Christmas

Today’s memory is brought to you via our Christmas Letter from 1977.  Just so you know …  We have five children, our youngest being born May 5, 1977, and our oldest turning 9 on December 9, 1977.    

“Twas the week before Christmas, and all through our house

Not one person was pleasant, not even our mouse.

The whole fam’ly was sick, with some kind of flu,

Even PaPa was home having aches and pains too.

And he with his hanky, to catch all the sneezing,

Was trying to help MaMa reduce some of the wheezing.

And Kimmy, the baby, so sweet and so happy,

Had just settled down for her afternoon nappy.

When from her room there arose such a clatter,

We sprang from our sick beds to see what was the matter.

She was jolly and plump, a real cute little elf …

But I gagged when I saw her, in spite of myself.

She was covered with poop from her head to her feet,

And so was her blanket, and pillow, and sheet.

Lynn spoke not a word but went straight to his work,

Since she’d filled both her stockings, she went with a jerk

To the john, and was stripped and put in her tubby,

By St. Nick himself, who looked just like my hubby.

He laid both of his fingers aside of his nose,

As the smell from the child in the tubby arose.

And giving a sigh and a nod of his head,

He sent me to clean up the stuff in her bed.

She cleaned up quite well and and was smelling quite nice,

When I saw Lynn in his work clothes and splashing Old Spice.

And I heard him exclaim as he drove out of sight.

“It’s much safer at work.   I’ll see you tonight!”

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The 4th Memory of Christmas, Handel’s Hallelujah Chorus

     Beautiful music stirs my arms to goose bumps. Maybe that’s why I always feel cold. One of the most challenging things I’ve done with my musical talent is participating in an organ/piano duet from Handel’s “Messiah” while Dad directed the Draper 4th Ward choir. Dad committed mother and I to do it long before we knew about it, let alone were convinced it could be done. I’d played the piano part with Marilee Sjoblom on the organ a few years earlier for a special ward talent night program, and mother and I had played it together at home for easy to impress friends and relatives, but to play it while the choir was singing and the congregation sat with high expectations seemed more than a little formidable to us both. I didn’t like feeling I could mess it up for THAT many people. It would take hours and hours and hours of practice … and then it would still take a miracle.

     At just about any given evening hour either Mother or I would be sitting alone at the piano or organ, or we would be sitting there together, carefully counting and practicing together … sometimes crying … always encouraging each other … as we tried to learn our parts well enough to accompany the choir. By the time we started practicing with the choir we both felt it would take more than a Christmas miracle for Dad to pull this one a off. If we got off, the choir would get mixed up. If the choir got mixed up it would throw one or both of us off. Through it all Dad just kept telling us, “You can do it, there’s plenty of time. If you do all you can do to prepare for this program, angels will fill in the gaps.” I thought he was asking a lot from the angels. “Choir members began to pat our backs after choir telling us not to stress, that it was “coming together so … nicely”. Well, of course, we stressed anyway. It’s in our genes.

     I would dare say we played that song four hundred times over the next four weeks and by the week before the performance we could play it together “good enough” most of the time, and more frequently we each played it “very well” … but never at the same time. We had not once achieved what either of us considered “excellent”, either alone or together. At our final, dress rehearsal (our choir practices were at 6:00 AM Saturday mornings) with dad conducting and the full choir singing, we each made one mistake after another. It was disheartening to say the least. We didn’t think our nerves, or our bowels, would survive. I secretly wished I would slip on the ice and break my arm.

     On the day of the performance, the choir bowed their heads while Dad offered a simple prayer that went something like, “We are just humble children who want to do our best on this joyous occasion. We have diligently practiced, putting in many hours privately and together. Please send angels who can buoy us up and fill in any gaps, that those who have come to worship the birth and the life of thy Son, Jesus Christ may feel of Thy spirit.”

     Well, we did receive a miracle that day. Our choir of thirty five members sounded like a host of heavenly angels and Mom and I didn’t miss a note. What ecstatic joy we all felt as we played the last booming chords exactly together. For a moment the choir stood silently in awe while Dad, who was limp with emotion, stepped from his little raised podium and sat down, wiping the tears from his face with his folded handkerchief. “Mom whispered, “Lewy, LEWY … you forgot to have them sit down again!” (This was something he often forgot to do and the choir members had threatened to remain standing until he got back up and sat them down.) He stood and turned to face the patiently waiting choir members once more and opened the lapels of his coat to reveal a sign he’d pinned to his stiffly starched, white shirt that read, “You may be seated.” (My Dad never failed to bring a smile to people’s faces and this was no exception.)

     It was a marvelous experience for a teenager and one I think of every year when I pull out my box of Christmas music. Thank you Mom and Dad for always believing in me and pushing me to reach beyond what I think I am capable of.

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The fourth, no … third Memory of Christmas

Christmas Eve and (Almost) Five Years Old Edna

Well, let’s see now…

     When little Edna was (almost) five years old she was such a true believer in Santa Clause that it was inconceivable that there could be any doubt he existed.    By then, of course, she could remember what had happened the year before and she could hardly wait for it to happen again.

     Edna’s older siblings worked hard during December to fill her to the brim with stories and activities so that by Christmas Eve her excitement level was bubbling over the top.    As her father would say, “She was as jumpy as a fart on a hot skillet.”    Her only sister was twelve years older than Edna, and her brothers were ages eight and ten years older; it was the perfect time to work on Edna’s imagination.    She seriously soaked in everything she was told about Santa, his elves, the North Pole, and Santa’s Toy Shoppe … and it was all vividly painted in her imagination.

      Her brothers told her tales of Santa’s elves and how they jumped from snowy fence post to snowy fence post; how they were so fast that you rarely ever saw more than a blur from the corner of your eye as they ran around gathering notes for Santa’s list.   The brothers knew everything about the elves from the tips of their pointed little hats right down to the bells on their curly little shoes.   They knew where they slept when they were on “duty” and how they would sneak in at night to get warm by the coal-burning upright heater in our living room and sneak little nibbles from our bread.    Bill swears to this day that he saw one leap the high fences that corralled the farm animals who lived down the dirt lane from our home to the barns at the back of our three acre lot.    They would take Edna to the windows of the house and watch for elves, occasionally screaming, “Did you see it?   Did you see it?”   At first, she didn’t … but by the time Christmas came around, she was pretty sure she was seeing them too.    Both of her brothers made sure she understood the seriously worrisome details of how easy it was to get on Santa’s “Naughty” list, particularly if you disobeyed your older parents, your sister, or your brothers.   (This story teller knows it was their way of expressing their love).   

     Ann, was in high school, and Edna thought she was the prettiest, nicest big sister you could have ever, ever … ever wish for and she always seemed to make sure every holiday there was plenty of “sister time”.    She would show her pictures of the North Pole and tell her stories of Santa’s workshop, how the toys are made, and how easy it is to stay on Santa’s “Nice” list.   

      On Christmas Eve, after visiting some neighbors, singing carols together with the family and reading the story of Christmas from the Bible, it was time to hang up the Christmas stockings.    Edna was trying to find the biggest stocking she could among the ones in her drawer but her foot was much smaller than the ones everyone else had found.   Her mother found her sitting on the sofa, arms folded across her chest and a big frown on her face. 

     “What are you doing sitting here like that?   You better hang up your stocking and get to sleep before Santa comes or he will see us still up.   He has to visit every house in the world, and you know, he never comes unless we are asleep,” Mother told the pouting little girl.

     “My stockings are too little.   Santa won’t even be able to give me a big orange and apple in its toe,” she grumbled, holding up her longest stocking, which compared to the others was, indeed, very small.    “That’s what he puts in the toe, because I know.”

     Daddy, who overheard this exchange winked at her and motioned secretly with his finger for her to follow him.   They went around the corner, through the kitchen, down the hall, and into her parents bedroom, which was filled with mysterious shopping bags and lumpy things that were covered with Mother’s table cloths.    Finally, inside the closet, Daddy opened the drawer that held his neatly rolled socks and told her she could pick any one of them.

     “I can?” Edna asked excitedly.   “Won’t Santa care if it isn’t my own stocking?”

     Daddy laughed and said, “No, I absolutely know for sure that Santa won’t care if you choose one of mine.” 

     And so she did.    She chose the longest stocking in Daddy’s drawer and went running happily back to hang it in the living room where five other stockings were already hanging in a row.  (This memory was three years before Reed was born.)

     “Now Santa can fill it clear full,” she thought to herself as she sat once more on the sofa to look at the Christmas room; the decorations, the lights on the beautiful tree in the corner, and the odd shaped stockings hanging on the wall.    She felt safe and happy as she looked at mother’s Christmas Crèche and thought about Mary and Joseph, the singing angels, the shepherds sleeping on the hills with their sheep, the wise men who followed the star all the way to where baby Jesus lay sleeping on the hay.  Her mother told her the story when they would rock in the big, leather rocking chair and Edna knew that Christmas was the birthday of Jesus.

     “I love Jesus,” she thought as her eyes got heavier and heavier until she was sound asleep.     Her Daddy quietly picked her up and carried her up the narrow stairs to the bedrooms that were built in the attic above the kitchen and living room.    The ceilings of the rooms were higher in the middle so everyone, even Daddy, could stand up straight but then they sloped at an angle out to meet the walls on two of the walls before they angled down about four feet to the floor.     To get to the room Ann shared with Edna, Daddy walked through Bill and Chick’s shared room and then he gently laid her down in-between the nice, clean sheets and pulled the covers up and tucked them around her chin.

     “Good night, Babe (He always called her Babe),” he whispered.    “I love you.”

      “I love you, too, Daddy”, Edna whispered back, even though she was already dreaming of elves, and candy and dollies who really drank from teensie, little baby bottles. 

     Morning took forever to arrive for the children in the attic.   There was a firm family rule that no one … and that means NO ONE … was to go into the living room without first waking up their parents.   The tradition was that Daddy would get up and sneak in first in to make sure Santa had come and gone, so he wasn’t disturbed before he was through filling the stockings and putting presents beneath the tree, and then he would turn on the bright, flood lights so he could take pictures of the children who would come down the hall, shortest to tallest, to see what awaited just around the corner.

    The first four or five times that one of the children quietly snuck down to the side of their parents bed to ask what time it was, they were told that it was still the middle of the night and to go back to bed.    The last time, when the boys talked Edna into sneaking down to check on the time, Mommy sat up in bed and said, “Oh come on, Lewy, (that was what she called Daddy) let’s get up and see what Santa brought.

     “It’s 5:00 in the morning,” Daddy loudly whispered as he sleepily sat up and stretched his arms wide as he yawned.     “We don’t even know if Santa has been here yet.”

     “Well, you could quietly sneak down and see,” Mommy whispered  back as she winked and smiled at the now wide awake Edna.    “You go back up the stairs very, very quietly and  tell everyone they can sneak down to our room and Daddy will go see if Santa has come.”

     Edna whispered back, “Okay, Mommy,” and she quietly did just as she had been told.

     The children quietly huddled at the back wall of the hall, shivering in the morning chill, already lining up so they would be ready when Daddy gave the word they could march into the living room.   Shortest to tallest; Edna first, then Chick, then Bill, and then Ann lined up very quietly in the hall and whispered excitedly as Daddy tip toed with a highly exaggerated steps, down the hall where he stood pressed against the wall as he peaked his head around the corner.

     Quickly he pulled his head back and gave a panicked look at the children down the hall, motioning for them to be very still.   Slowly, he flattened his back along the edge of the wall of the kitchen and began to inch his way very carefully and quietly back down the hall to where they stood.  All motion and whispering had stopped and they were dead still as they watched Daddy make his way back to the family, where he quietly patted his chest and breathed in some big gulps of air.

     “Don’t anyone move or sneeze or make any kind of noise.   Santa and the elves are in there right now.    You know what that means.”  Daddy whispered seriously.

     Yes, indeed, they did know what that meant, and Edna tried to stand still, but Ann, and Bill, and Chick kept whispering to each other and getting the giggles.    The coal heater, you will recall, was in the living room and the hall was so chilly that cold Christmas morning that their teeth began to chatter, which made them giggle even more.  Daddy hushed them and said he could hear movement in the living room and suddenly, so could they!   They really could, it wasn’t their imagination!   They could hear faint talking and bumping sounds, and the jingle of bells, and then, just as suddenly, everything was quiet.    They waited quietly for another long minute before Daddy once again crept down the hall alone, just to make sure.

     “It’s clear,” he called as he flipped on flood lights, played soft Christmas music on his new recording machine, and stirred up the fire in the furnace.    “Oh boy, you aren’t going to believe the things that are in here,” he would call out every few seconds.

      “Hurry, Daddy,” we called back as we took our turns in the single bathroom that everyone shared.  Mommy and Ann decided to take their hair out of the pin-curls they slept in and comb it and put on lipstick for the pictures.    It seemed to Edna that it was taking everyone FOREVER!.

      When the excitement was literally bouncing from the walls and ceiling, Mommy and Daddy went into the living room and called, “Okay, you can come now!”

      The first thing Edna saw when she turned the corner to the room of surprises was a row of stockings hanging on the wall … with round, full heels and toes and mysterious bumps with a banana and candy cane peeking from the top.    What a relief she felt!    Santa had really, really come!   

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And that’s where this memory ends because even though our gifts to each other were carefully chosen and deeply appreciated, and Santa had given us wonderful presents, those things are not what I remember most.   I remember the things we did as a family in the days leading up to Christmas; whispering secrets, telling stories, singing carols, hanging our stockings, reading from about the first Christmas from the Bible, and faking sleep so I could be carried to bed.  How fun it was when my father caught Santa in the act, and that we heard he and his elves in living room as we all stood quietly shivering in the hall.   

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Meet our turkey, Jon Pierre 1978/1979

Disclaimer to the Hancey’s and Henke children:  The memories are true and you will remember them all, but think of them as bits and snatches that have been floating around for almost 25 years.  I grabbed them one at a time and formed them into one big ball for the this story.   Please, please please, don’t tell the little man.     It was either 1978 or 1979

On the 2nd Memory of Christmas …

“Hey, my name is Alice and my boyfriend’s name is Andy”, Marie Osmond’s voice rang out from the small tape player that sat on the kitchen table. My daughter Angi and her friends Annette and Jenny Hancey had been singing and dancing for hours without a break. Their faces were red and sweaty from their exhaustive dance moves, but they were preparing for a show for the two families and it was do or die.

The boys had given up tormenting the girls and had gathered every blanket and chair they could find in the house to make a huge tent in the living room. It was impressive but I couldn’t help but think about the work involved in getting all those blankets on the beds and back where they belonged. “Whew,” I thought to myself as I eased down on the edge of the sofa, trying not to disturb the heavy pile of books that were holding down the corner of their house.

It was our first Christmas in Ivins and I was doing my best to combat homesickness from the thought of not being able to get up to Draper, Utah, and attend the family parties. The closing costs on our house had been considerably higher than we’d been told and pennies were pinching at our house. Fortunately we had a little bit of a stash put away to get the children their Christmas gifts, but there was no money left for enough gas to get up to Salt Lake City, Utah, and back. We were fairly new in a small town that of people who seemed to be all related and I wasn’t feeling much of the Christmas spirit.

On the first day that the children were out of school for the holidays I decided to let the children have their friends over for the entire day. Well, actually there was a reason for this mad gesture of kindness and that was that my friend, Phyllis, needed to finish up four beautiful Christmas dresses, four Christmas nightgowns, and one nice warm pair of flannel pajama without curious children around. It was the day I’d set aside for baking … so I was willing to put up with just about anything as long as it wasn’t continually right under my nose.

The day before I had gathered ingredients and favorite family recipes and early that morning, in the tradition of my grandmothers, mother, and sister, I began baking up batches of cookies, brownies, and banana bread. I had many fingers in the batter when they thought my eyes were turned, but I figured the heat of the oven would kill any germs that were being passed around. I have to admit, I had my shares of samples as well. I may not have been with them in their kitchens, laughing, talking and stirring while beautiful Christmas music played softly in the background, but my house definitely smelled as good as theirs and I had eleven young children to keep me entertained … with the music of Donny and Marie Osmond blaring loudly in the background. As each mouthwatering treat was carefully set aside to set up or cool down, I found myself singing along with Marie’s, “Paper RoooZes, Paper RoooZes …” as I realized that I didn’t have to physically be with my family to feel the Christmas spirit. Carrying on family traditions and breathing in the familiar aromas of nutmeg, cinnamon, vanilla, and chocolate would fill more than our tummies.

So it was time for Lynn to get the turkey in the oven. One by one the children’s eyes lit up and they quickly began to gather around … not because they loved turkey, mind you, but because our turkeys had personality. Well, at first they didn’t. At first they were just a dead old, naked, inanimate bird but as soon as Lynn picked them up and put them in the water to get washed, they magically came to life. This one was from France and his name was Jon Pierre, and he definitely didn’t like to be bathed in a kitchen full of people! He kicked, and tried to get away, and tried hard to fly with his featherless wings, all the while splashing water on the countertops and the kitchen floor. Lynn was able to calm him down with a nice massage but when he was thoroughly dried and ready for his tasty herbs and spices, Jon Pierre burst up once again in a last giant effort for freedom, chasing a screaming Brett and Ryan through the house and almost making it out the front door before Lynn was able to wrestle him back to the kitchen. He may have been one of the feistiest birds we’ve ever met. The children giggled and screamed as Lynn continued to try to reason with our turkey to no avail. Finally, in a last attempt to plead for his life, Jon Pierre sang out in a high pitched, falsetto voice, “Ta Ra Ra Boom-dee-ay, Ta Ra Ra Boom-dee-ay,” while doing the Can Can on the kitchen counter top, but everyone still gave him a merciless thumbs down and our spirited Christmas turkey was placed in the oven to roast. Satisfied with the results, the giggling children went back to their activities and Lynn and I began to mop the kitchen floor.

While the turkey sizzled in the oven I stirred up batches of delicious home-made fudge, English toffee, and peanut brittle. That night after dinner we were to be favored by a program featuring the children and Donnie and Marie Osmond … not exactly your traditional Christmas program but, hey, they’d practiced it. After Christmas caroling we would exchange gifts and read together about the birth of Jesus Christ, surrounded by our new (to be loved for many years to follow) friends and neighbors, the Hanceys.

Oh, and there is something I almost forgot to tell! When Lynn went to lift our beautifully roasted John Pierre from the oven he slid right out of the pan and onto the floor.

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